I've always loved conversations that lead to debates and eventually make
me think. One such recent conversation was about the pros and cons of growing
up in India versus abroad. Now, I've not been to the States *yet*, but I do
have a fair insight about the life there, thanks to my friends and Quora. Of
all the things, one quality or rather privilege that kids at the abroad are
entitled to, is the possibility of doing what one likes, which nurtures individuality.
On the other hand here in India, needless to say most of you know of the
'situation' here, as the famous tweet goes – “people first become engineers
and then figure out what they want to become”.
As much as I'd like to blame the parents and society, they're not
the only ones to be blamed, for, it is economics that comes foremost here
before any decision after all.
Being told what to do, every single time, by the parents or uncles/ aunts or even neighbors, a kid grows up under peer pressure, being spoon-fed, to be an engineer that is, at least most of them. So if at all the passions survives in him, he rebels to become what he always wanted to be, but only after losing half of it in all the drama. And then there are a few who actually find their passion in between all the boring classes of engineering. But then they'd have come so far, so they just go along with the flow; prepare for competitive exams without knowing why. Of course, there's not much else they can do in this country. The sad state here is that, even after all the movies or whatever, when the parents understand and stop controlling him, stop wanting him to become what they couldn't be, in most of the cases he would not be able to decide for himself by then. For, after all this time of spoon-feeding, the creative kid in him is long dead.
Let’s just look at a typical kid growing up in abroad. As soon as he’s
18, he leaves the home to find his life. He starts by being independent, working
petty jobs and feeding his passion. And he just goes on to develop this and
eventually become successful. Only the real-passionate ones go to college and
then to University for post graduate in anything technical. No wonder most of
them reach the heights, but not after many failures. Now this, this exactly,
gives him more confidence, more individuality in life, something that Indians
unfortunately seem to lack.
In India, while one section of the population is struggling to get an
education and there is now an emphasis on Right to Education and all, we should
also pause and take a look at the section of kids who do not have the right to not study.
Now, this might sound crazy. People with learning disability, people with no
slightest interest in “studies”, are all forced into studies and eventually
engineering rather than actually doing what they are passionate about. One
should be allowed to nurture the talent that is rather unique to him. How many
times have we seen or experienced small kids being gagged with too
much homework and cut down on all the play-time, killing the foundation
for the creativity for life. While there is an innate emphasis on education in
our culture, there is also this thing wrong in our system. Of course
change is not very much possible now with little opportunities in
India. But while we try to eradicate poverty through education, we should
also remember to nurture some individuality, liberty to think, and become what
one wants, even if it means some failures initially. According to me, THIS is
true development.
(Too much to ask for? If the mindsets change, trust me, there's definitely a
chance.)
Image courtesy: Every damn meme page on FB. It's gone viral because almost everyone can relate to.
